Attachment Focused Play is a particular way of playing with our children that will strengthen their relationship with us, including building trust in us to be able to keep them safe and meet their needs. It is also important because:
How to introduce this:
- Pick a time when you and your child can spend 10 – 15 minutes together doing an activity they will enjoy. Focus on this being an enjoyable time together. You can call this time together anything that fits for you and your child (e.g., special play time, special time, our special time together etc.)
- Explain what both of you will be doing and encourage your child to choose something they would enjoy doing (one that does not need you to be in charge eg., one where you need to teach them what to do)
|Ideas for younger children||Ideas for older children|
|Drawing, colouring in, building blocks, lego, cars, farm set, toy animals, dolls/action figures, play doh, playing with a ball together, cooking set, simple puzzles||Making paper planes and flying them, drawing, lego, construction toys, working on a jigsaw puzzle, craft, modelling clay, building things together, dolls/action figures, shooting goals, even gardening together|
- What to focus on
|Things to do||Try to|
- You can use a kitchen timer or other timer to time the 10-15 minutes. When the time is up let your child know it is time to finish. If children have not finished what they are doing they can keep going with it on their own once the time is up or they might like to continue with it next time.
- When kids are engaging in difficult behavious it is even more important that we make the time for attachment focused play.
- It can be challenging to do this in busy households and when you have more than one child. Planning and looking at how you can free up time for each child individually will help make it possible.